Below are a list of my pet peeves, as an INFJ. Please note that these aren’t meant to speak for all INFJs, as we are more than our personality type. That said, feel free to add yours in the comments! 🙂
-Inconsiderate people. I get frustrated with those that do not consider the needs or feelings of those around them, especially when it is obvious. I make it a point to be considerate, and would like the same in return. If I get up for a glass of water, I’m going to offer you one, too. If I am walking down the aisle at the grocery store and another shopper is headed in my direction, I am going to make room for them. I’m not going to clog up the aisle and give them a dirty look when they struggle to squeeze by me. Unfortunately, the world is full of inconsiderate people, making this a constant source of frustration. I will bend over backwards for people I don’t even know, yet no one does this for me. Sometimes I get fed up and think to myself, “If ya can’t beat ’em, join ’em!” Then I cut someone off in traffic, or flip out on the cable company when my DVR is broken again. I am not proud of this. As a matter of fact, I feel pretty darn guilty afterwards. It is so out of character for me. But it does happen on very rare occasions when I have had enough.
-Shallow and superficial people. I see so much depth to everything in life, so I don’t understand how other people can’t. I know there is more to life than popularity, job titles, money, the vehicle you drive, what brand your clothes are, or what you look like. I see right past a person’s appearance and into who they really are. This is effortless, like breathing. I don’t look at someone’s clothes and decide we can’t be friends based on their fashion choices alone. Shows like “Fashion Police” drive me nuts; sitting around judging people for what they wear is ridiculous. There is way more underneath that “hideous” dress and perfect body–there is a soul in there with feelings. People who put a tremendous amount of importance on “stuff” are people I don’t usually have much in common with. This is why small talk is annoying and tiresome–it is nothing more than a superficial, meaningless waste of breath. I find it really irritating. I know that “stuff” is just a tornado or fire away from being gone, and most of it is replaceable. I would rather invest in my relationships with loved ones than in stuff…my family and friends cannot be replaced and time is precious. I think of life in terms of, “when I’m on my deathbed, am I going to even care of about this? What is really going to have mattered at that point?”
-Selfishness–Looking out for number one at the expense of everyone else. For example: Doing drugs when you know you’re pregnant and putting your unborn child at risk just so you can get a high. Gambling your bank account away when you have a family at home who depends on you. Starving and neglecting your dog because you are too lazy to care for it. Driving drunk, putting countless innocent lives at risk because you couldn’t be bothered to call a cab. Making an elderly woman stand on the subway because you are too comfortable to give up your seat. Walking right past someone who obviously needs help. Suing McDonald’s for millions because YOU spilled hot coffee. That is selfishness. Selfishness is the root of all evil. If you know you’re actions are going to needlessly hurt someone and you do it anyway, that drives me crazy. Life isn’t fair…life is brutal. But we are all in this together, like it or not. We can make each other’s lives even more miserable, or we can lend a helping hand. Imagine how much it would change the world if every single person made an effort to help someone. It is good to put yourself first sometimes, healthy, even! But there is a delicate balance. We also need to learn the value of putting others ahead of ourselves. (Being a parent will teach you this very quickly!)
What are yours?